dailydatewithgod

One of the things we do not realize is how many requirements we place on ourselves and those around us.  Life itself is believed to go according to plan.  Any time we find ourselves stating a “should” we know we are in the realm of requirements.  We are telling ourselves and others that as long as the people and the situation are going as expected, I am okay. We are asking ourselves and others to be a certain way in order to procure our sense of well-being.  We have timing requirements, behavior requirements, and visual requirements. We are uncomfortable with the unknown and the unexpected because our mind interprets it as possible danger.  To avoid danger, we place the requirement expectations and fall for the illusion that we are okay.  However, we set ourselves up for trouble because rarely do people or circumstances meet all our requirements.  At the very least we end up disappointed in ourselves, others, or situations.  At the very worst, we have based our peace and serenity on something or someone who cannot meet that need.  My daily dates with God are the only thing I have found to keep from falling for the very worst of what comes of requirements.  In our time together and consequently throughout the day, I get reacclimated to the truth. The truth that nothing outside of my own heart provides the consistency and the core grounding which guides my peace and serenity.  Any time I forget, all I have to do is pause, draw my attention to my heart, and take a deep breath.  Letting go of requirements is a process and I mess it up all the time.  The more time I spend reconnecting with my heart, the easier it becomes to not fall for the “shoulds” I am ridiculously requiring of myself or others.