dailydatewithgod

I am always fascinated when you ask people how things went and they state good and that they can’t complain.  They can’t or they choose not to?  I mean we all can complain but it makes me wonder if it is because they do not think it is proper or they are completely satisfied.  In any given moment there are a number of upsets we experience.  Whether we admit to it or not we have a number of expectations and preconceived ideas going into any experience.  It could be as simple as how we think our drive to work is going to go or a first date. However, we are often not upset for the reason we think.  We determine that if only there was not traffic on the way to work it would have gone smoothly or if he or she had picked a different place to meet the date would have gone splendidly.  Our preconceived picture was not met and so we are perturbed.  Are we upset by the different experience or the disruption of our previously drawn picture in our minds?  We blame the experience or the person but maybe we are the responsible ones.  If we had created a different picture or let go of expectations would we still be upset?  In recovery I learned the crucial role of acceptance.  If I truly trust in a God who cares for me and is with me no matter what then I know I can face whatever comes my way without checking out.  In there I can roll with the upsets, I can accept things as they are not as I thought they would be.  Further on my daily dates with God I learned I can see them with my heart and find what there is to love within the upset or anything I decided I did not want as part of my reality.  I can learn to embrace the upsets as gifts because at the very least they remind me to be in the present moment and step out of the virtual reality of my mind.