dailydatewithgod

We all have distinctive talents and desires.  We are all equipped with particular inclinations and interests.  We readily accept this about ourselves and others yet we do not know where they come from.  They seem to be inherent within us.  In the same way we are drawn to particular colors, flowers, music for no particular reason we also posses particular person styles.  Our personality styles indicate things about our proclivity towards negative or positive default perspectives as well as comfort level around other people.  All of these elements of ourselves are a mixture of nature and early life experience.  Why is it then we are bothered when someone seems particularly negative but are not bothered that the prefer orchids to roses or the color purple to green?  Our caliber for all the various things we experience in life is in large part due to what we have already been exposed to in our lives.  Getting to know our own caliber for all the elements of our lives begins with not seeing them as right or wrong.  My caliber is not better or worse depending on someone else’s in the same way my interest is not better or worse because I am more drawn to pine trees versus palos verde trees.  We tend to blame people for the caliber because we see it as possible to grow and change it.  It is, but only if we are interested or are motivated to do so. Rarely does contempt of one’s character motivate that person to change.  The level at which we hold the caliber of another human being in dislike corresponds to level of contempt we hold for a similar caliber in ourselves.  Other people may be better at showing their particular caliber but if it was not something also living in us, we would not recognize it.  The fact we are bothered by it, tells us more about ourselves than the other person.  It is too easy to blame people for their character not being what we want it to be.  The heart driven initiative takes courage because it calls us to take a look inside ourselves and assess our own caliber of the trait we see in someone else.  When we make peace with our own caliber, we are not disturbed by another person’s.