dailydatewithgod

We like to think life will move along our expectations.  It is why we often experience being let down. There is a saying in recovery rooms that expectations are set up for resentment.  Depending upon how strongly we expect things to happen or people to behave, we can experience a sense of loss and frustration or worse due to the supposed aberration. We get caught up in the supposed idea of a thing and falter when things deviate from what we consider the norm, which we describe as the thing that is supposed to happen.  Many things have shown up as an aberration and ended up being exactly what I did not know I wanted or needed. As much as we like to think we know who we truly are, most of what we build our self-knowledge on are how the world defines us.  We are our name, our role in family and society, we are our gender, we are our looks, we are our job, we are our level of intelligence.  All of these are elements of ourselves but none of them are the truth of who we are.  Have you noticed all of those things are in constant flux?   How can we stand in a truth of who we are that shifts with the wind?  Perhaps these aberrations are merely life’s way of reminding us not to take ourselves so seriously.  Perhaps aberrations are invitations from our hearts to go with the flow.  To connect with the flow, we are invited to let go of the norm and the expectation and sit with the deepest part of ourselves. Within each one of us is a true sense of who we are which our heart invites us to get to know.  Only when we are in some cases forced to let go by experiencing aberration, do we stop seeking the answers in our head or outside of us.  An aberration becomes the unexpected invitation to look within at who God created us to be and assess how it matches up with how we and the world see ourselves and our expectations of normal.