dailydatewithgod

We get used to moving at such a fast pace we sometimes forget we have an option.  At any time we can pause. In case we forget, our body reminds us of this option each time we take a breath.  Hesitating is sometimes seen as a weakness but is it really?  According to whom?  To the person who moves a thousand miles a minute?  To the person who is in a rush?  To the person who does not know how to set boundaries for themselves?  We can choose to go within and check with ourselves before responding to an experience or a person.  Just because we are being asked to provide input or say what we think, does not mean it must be on the other person’s timeline.  If we are reluctant to give ourselves permission to hesitate, we could blame it on another person or the circumstance, but would that be the truth?  Maybe we do not practice hesitating because we do not want to hold others up. Perhaps our need to be validated by another’s response to our participation in a way they would like is what we are choosing instead of hesitating to make sure it a true response for us.  Maybe we do not want to face what we perceive others will feel about our hesitating.  When we choose not to hesitate because of someone or something outside of ourselves, we are giving away our power.  In recovery, I learned the power of saying “I’ll get back to you on what I think or feel about ___________.”  I choose on my best days to presume when something is being asked of me whether it is my thoughts or my behavior, the requester genuinely wants the response to be from me, not from what I think is wanted by someone else. I know from experience when I take the time to check in with my heart I am better apt to provide clear communication with my words and actions which mirror what is authentic for me in the moment.  Seeing the practice of hesitating as an empowering one means using the eyes of my heart along with the eyes of my mind.