dailydatewithgod

One of the primary focuses when it comes to relationships of any kind with others is communication. It seems to be where most things break down in a relationship.  The challenge is found in the various kinds of communication which are available to us.  Yes, we communicate with words and given there are multiple accepted meanings to words plus we each have our own understanding of words, it is a set up for confusion.  Then there is the physical communication of what we do with our body and the tone of our voice when we communicate with others.  Then you add in the energetic component and is it any real surprise how conflict occurs when communication is involved?  Some people find it so frustrating they opt out as much as possible which creates another challenge. According to several communication experts there are levels of communication. The main ones are words, tone, and body language. We default to the words which as already indicated because of various meaning options are not as straightforward as it sounds.  Then you throw in the context which changes the accepted meaning and challenges ensue.  What we have learned, however, is the actual words rank lower on the scale of what is actually imparted. This seems to stem from the fact that we are not even certain how long humans have been using language.  Before that were grunts accompanied by a tone and body language.  Without realizing it we are inclined to pick up on the tone and body language quicker than the actual words. Has anyone else noticed how our present-day inclination to use texting and email as a main form of communication leaves out those two factors?  Then add to it how much we fill in the actual words in any kind of conversation that we do not understand and don’t quite hear clearly and one sees where the opportunities are ripe for conflict. How can we make sure we are imparting what we want to convey in our communication what we actually intend to impart?  Having an awareness of all these layers of communication presents us with the chance to look at how much we are in alignment with ourselves.  Do we say what we really mean?  Have we checked in with ourselves to make sure we are imparting what our intention is?  If we find ourselves saying things we don’t mean, we are not fooling anyone.  They can tell by our body language and tone of voice.  Making sure we are imparting what is true for us requires us to be in touch with our own truth.  It is an invitation to pause and get connected to ourselves before attempting to impart anything to anyone else.  Anytime we find we are struggling in our communication with others, it may be time to take a look at what is happening within us first. We are not responsible for how others respond to what we are imparting, but we are responsible for what we decide to impart.