dailydatewithgod

If you have ever attempted to go a whole day without complaining you might know something about how alarming it is to realize just how easy it is to complain about things.  Sometimes I think we do it so often because we do not know how else to express ourselves.  It sounds too emotional to admit we are hurt by something or someone.  It seems too dramatic to be disappointed by an experience.  It is these chagrins that can motivate us to think we are expressing ourselves when we complain.  We give people and experiences lots of power and when we are chagrin it is because we realize just how much power we have given them.  Why else would we feel vexed?  Why else would we feel humiliated?  We are chagrin because we witness the fallibility of life.  We tell ourselves we should know better or that we should not have put ourselves in such a situation or let ourselves put our hopes in that person.  It is easier to just complain about them or it than own the chagrin.  It is why complaining does not accomplish anything other than saying something. Why not take a chance and speak from the heart?  God has shown me the first way to walk through a moment of chagrin is to admit how I feel to myself.  I may or may not need to voice it to anyone else, but I need to own it for myself.  My heart calls me to speak its truth so I can hear it and allow it to resonate and move through me.  Only by allowing the chagrin to move through me can I get a clear idea of what, if anything, to do next.  It may seem easier to complain but it is like giving lip service to our feelings. We don’t need our hearts to do it.  Given the depth of a chagrin don’t we owe ourselves at least the opportunity to resonate with depth what we have experienced truthfully?