dailydatewithgod

We like to think we do not have the number of inherent biases that we do.  We fancy ourselves as not affected by general social biases but given how biases are the things we are usually blind to we are clearly in fantasy.  In the grand scheme of things, I think we are better off admitting how unaware we are of our personal and cultural biases.  At least from there, we can move from a known place of unknowing.  By taking the shame out of having the biases to begin with we can explore them and determine how much we are impacted by them. We create a neutral space from which to move into learning more about how they motivate us to action.  If we are busy denying their existence, then we do not have the energy left to get what is beneath them.  Our biases were most likely formed based on given experiences and meanings we made about those experiences at a time in our lives when we did not yet know there were other options. By approaching our biases with neutrality we honor the time in our lives when they made sense while simultaneously seeing how they may or may not apply to the current situation. Neutrality gives us the space to perceive our biases with the lens of the heart.  In my experience, I am not able to move through something when I am carrying judgment about it.  I need to look at it through the lens of neutrality which has no judgment or shame or interest in conviction.  Our hearts know the breathing space of neutrality in a way that blows our minds if we let it.