dailydatewithgod

It is sometimes hard to discern what applies to us.  There are so many categories and elements to who we are that when we come across ideas or situations we may think it pertains to us but it may not.  There are all kinds of categories to which we belong and some we do not have any control over.  I am a woman, a worker, a friend, a sister, a daughter, an American, a Southern California resident, a car owner and driver, a master’s degree holder, a descendant of Irish and Italian immigrants, a writer, a blonde-haired person, a spiritual being, a giver, a learner, and so on.  We could spend all day divvying up where we belong based on all our different characteristics. Consider for a moment how there are groups and qualifications assigned to any one of those categories which may pertain to us.  That is a lot of categories or groups to belong to. But do they really pertain to us?  How do we figure out what pertains to us or how much of that characteristic pertains to us?  Which of those elements of ourselves pertains enough to impact how we are being in the world?  What about the categories for which we are not a part?  Do those pertain to us?  There is only so much time and energy we can spend being a part of or involved within one day.  We get to choose the level of how any one of these elements pertains to the truth of who we are.  It may not pertain that much to me in a particular circumstance that I am a woman and tomorrow it may not pertain as much to me that I am a worker.  We get to discern which elements of our lives pertain the most to who we are being and what we are up to in the moment we are in.  No one else can determine that for us.  Some think it is their job to point out to us that we belong to them, but if we feel it does not pertain to us we can choose otherwise.  We are not victims of our circumstances or elements.  We have the agency to discern in any given moment the level to which any part of ourselves pertains to us.