dailydatewithgod

There is this strange phenomenon by which we only understand things due to an experience of their opposite.  It is not a secret we live a dual experience yet we consistently strive to maintain only one side. We want to be happy all the time, we only want good things to happen, we want to have money and things, and so on.  The things or ideas we perceive as being on the positive side of the spectrum are what we want to maintain.  I am not wondering why more people don’t want to be sad.  I get that.  Why do we fall for the idea that life can and should be only one side of the duality?  I do it too.  I want to maintain the good feelings, I resist the bad ones, and I even go so far as to think I have failed or there is something wrong with me if I am experiencing the downside of duality. What if all it is the variety of life? There were times in my life when I decided to close my heart off because I had was hurt.  What I did not know until much later is that I didn’t just avoid getting hurt.  I avoided being loved and giving love.  The ebb and flow, the change of course, the good and the bad, the right and wrong are all part of this life experience. Each time I find myself resisting reality I know deep down it is pointless.  In recovery and on my daily dates with God I learned how to be with whatever is happening.  I may not like it or understand it.  Within all of us is the courage to feel and be with whatever we are experiencing.  The more I am willing to tap into the courage of my heart and be with what is the more vivid life becomes.  The duality becomes something I no longer need to avoid or try and run from.  I can open up to it on a very simple level when I breathe in and out instead of holding my breath.