dailydatewithgod

Upon getting to know ourselves we will invariably uncover things we do not like about ourselves.  Often this comes through interaction with others.  We become aware because of their reaction that something we do or say is not met with the same level of understanding we have for where we are coming from or what our intention is.  On one level, it is important to recognize how our behavior is impacting others.  On another level, we will go crazy if we attempt to adjust ourselves based on the varied reaction of others. Given the multitude of factors that can fuel another person’s reaction, it can be helpful to notice a pattern.  In recovery, one of my early mentors would always say to me, “If you’re okay with it, they’ll be okay with it.”  She was not talking about intentionally trying to hurt someone or be careless.  She was speaking to the idea that I need to have a centering within myself.  Most of the time when I am worried about what other people think of me and how I am being, it is an indication that I have not come to a place of recognition and acceptance of myself.  The reality is people are not thinking about me.  My fears stem from what I really think about me.  Yet, if I have checked in with my understanding of God and am connected to the truth of who I am and accepted it, who I am being will be an extension of that.  Opting to pivot myself this way or that based on every different person I encounter means I lose connection with myself.  Even if there is a pattern in the way I am being received, God will continually invite me to connect to the truth of who I am at my core.  Only in the quiet space of my heart can I reconcile the truth of who I am with who I am being despite what ways I may be prompted to pivot by others.  It takes courage to look at ourselves. The purpose is to see more of how God sees us than we or anyone else does. Opting to pivot to the left or right based on the input from others will not take root unless we find a way to connect to the same truth within ourselves. God encourages us to pivot and embody the truth of who we are when we are connected to the love from which we were created.  If there is one thing I have learned on this journey it is that love doesn’t always look like I think love should look like.  I desire to pivot to the perspective of my highest self and with some self-compassion, I can recognize that my highest and best self is going to look different some days than others.