dailydatewithgod

When our lives shift in such a way that it alters the way we see ourselves the world around us irrevocably we find ourselves needing to reassess our sense of accomplishment and achievement.   We can see it when it comes to outside circumstances.  We go from being a kid at home to an adult on our own.  We shift from being single to married or vice versa.  We go from having a job to being unemployed or the reverse. Any situation where our reality is changed requires us to adjust our expectations of ourselves and others.  Our sense of what qualifies as a feat for a kid would be different than a parent.  Getting to a second date is a feat when dating in LA but probably not if living somewhere else. Landing an interview at an unknown company is a feat if we are looking for work.  Being able to breathe is a feat for someone on life support and is barely noticed by those of us who take it for granted.  As we go and change from circumstances and alter our relationship with ourselves we find we do not have the same feats we did before. Each day with each new breath we have the opportunity to be driven by the feats of our mind or the feats of our hearts.  Depending on how we define ourselves, we lay the foundation for which is considered a greater feat.  The world will always tell us that our feat is not real if it cannot be seen by others.  Yet our hearts have feats that mean nothing to the outside world.  I remember early on in recovery when after years of being emotionally shut off, my heart had softened enough that I found myself crying more easily. To this day I never apologize for crying because it is the most beautiful expression of release from my heart.  To the outside world, it may consider me to be weak or certainly nothing to celebrate, but in my heart I know it is an accomplishment.  Our hearts’ feats have a way of breaking things down into simple elements of gratitude. My heart can zero in on a feat that seems inconsequential to my mind. It is not about one being more valuable than the other but rather about the importance of connecting with the feats of our hearts as well as the feats of our minds.