dailydatewithgod

A familiar phrase that I have seen often over the years on dating profiles is either in a guy’s personal statement that he is not interested in a woman with baggage or that he does not have any baggage.  The comment causing me to laugh was from the guy who said it didn’t matter if someone had baggage, only that it was a matching set with his. 🙂 I appreciated his humility and honesty and I think I reached out to him, but we never connected.  I guess my profile or picture let him know at the outset that we didn’t have a matching set.  I am not sure I agree with the matching set idea either but it is a step up from the complete fantasy of no baggage.  We all carry around a backpack in this school of life.  In it, we hold on to stories and perceptions from our past.  We have cool pockets with points towards the future, and sometimes there is an old moldy sandwich leftover from well, more than a few days.  I do not care that you have a backpack or any kind of baggage as I want to be in a relationship with a man who is human and who has been affected and shaped by his life as I have.  For me, the deal-breaker is whether or not he knows what is in the backpack and how to find the moldy stinky sandwich and clean it out when needed.  We all, whether on the dating scene or not, have backpacks.  When we look with our eyes, we do not see a backpack, but sometimes their words or actions are an indication that they are reacting to something they are carrying around that is not in the room.  Our hearts give us the courage to look a little closer and see the backpack.  The lens of our hearts provides the compassion to remember we too are carrying around backpacks and maybe do our own share of reacting to them versus the present situation.