dailydatewithgod

As a recovering perfectionist, I have often struggled with letting go of things being a way that seems just right to me. Learning to adopt being okay with what is adequate may sound like slacking for some people. I never would have completed my graduate work while working two jobs if I hadn’t listened to my mentor who told me that getting the assignments done was adequate.  I was sure I would end up submitting subpar work.  No such luck, I aced all my coursework.  It turns out “A” stands for adequate. The more I learn to ebb and flow with life the more I find the ideas in my mind about what is adequate differ from what is adequate to my heart. My mind can circle over and over minute ideas of what perfection looks like in a particular situation yet my heart is not involved in this conversation. Our hearts find messiness and imperfection the adequate conditions to open us up to what it means to be relatable.  While our mind is busy looking for perfection our hearts are knocking at us to open our eyes and find the beauty in the adequate circumstances that have brought us to where we are at this moment. When our minds are worrying about whether we are perfect enough to meet the approval of another person, they find our adequate behavior to be charming and something that opens up the conversation between us.  While our minds may balk at the idea of adequacy, our hearts invite us to pause and notice what happens when we see how grateful we can be for all that is adequate in ourselves and our lives.