dailydatewithgod

It is amazing what we can accomplish when we start with the smallest steps.  Children do not grow overnight.  There is a step by step process in our bodies that knows exactly what comes first and then it continues from there.  The same happens when we build buildings.  We start with a design, lay the foundation, put up the beams to provide the wall structure, and so on.  We cannot put up the beams without the foundation.  Not if we expect it to last.  Relationships are no different.  One does not go from being an acquaintance to being a best friend in one moment.  It starts with recognition and conversation which increases in-depth over time.  We are often in such a rush to move from beginning to end that we do not allow time for the process of growing, building, or cultivating relationship.  Within the allowance of the process is where the strength of connection are created.  I am fortunate to have a few girlfriends whom I have known for over 30 years.  They are the most precious women to me. Our friendship started in middle school, a typically wacky time when your friends can make or break your reality.  When I reflect on the formation of my relationship with each of those women, it is not the big moments we shared standing out in my mind.   It is the small goofy circumstances and interactions that remind me of how precious those relationships are. It is the times when we allowed each other to be a messes and took turns being the one to help pick up the pieces.   There was no way to know on any given day that it would create the experience that would end up meaning so much.  They are the moments when God was so present in the love and connection we shared because we allowed each other and the circumstances to just be. It is what I found myself thinking back years later when I attended their weddings or got the call to celebrate a new job.  It is what we rehash when we get together once a year for our reunion.  The allowance of  building our connection over time is the glue that keeps us desiring to continue to connect despite the obstacles.  God allows us the freedom to be exactly who we are when we and what we are.  God trusts in the process of a relationship that can grow over time if we allow room to just be.  It is what gets cultivated on our daily dates and what I look forward to most when I wake up.