dailydatewithgod

I am not sure if it is because I was born and spent the first nine years of my life living in New York or it is the draw to authenticity but I very much appreciate honest and forthcoming communication. I do my best to be straightforward with people and hope they do the same with me.  Some may experience candor as brutal and abrasive and I have seen such misuse of candor before, but ultimately it provides us with a pathway from which to move forward.  If I am not able to be honest about where I am in the moment, I won’t get very far. How can change what I am not willing to name?  I used to think if I expressed myself candidly I would be chided and made wrong.  And perhaps I have been in the past.  More often than not, I find people simply don’t hear me.  It is actually kind of funny how it happens.  I can share openly about something with a coworker in conversation and they glide right past it and respond to something else. It is important to consider the relationship and the context with expressing candor.  It helps me to see this because it reminds me of what God has shown me on our daily dates.  What is most important is the level of candor in my relationship with myself and with God.  At the end of the day, it does not matter what others hear or do not hear, believe or not believe.  What matters is that I create a clear place from which to move forward.  In order to have peace of mind, my level of candor with myself has to be authentic.  At the end of my life, no one comes with me.  At the end of the day I am the one who is inside my head and breathing into my heart.  Living in candor gives me the freedom called for by my spirit.  This includes the level of candor about what I am willing to face and walk through in any given moment. It is not a fault if I am still in denial about something. I have yet to come across any human being who is not in denial about anything in their life.  It is having the candor to acknowledge there are things about me I do not yet know.  There are perceptions of others for which I have no basis of understanding.  Candor about our limitations without making ourselves wrong is priceless.  If God does not vilify me for what I am not yet aware of why do I?