dailydatewithgod

I am not sure if it is related to being a woman or just my own experiences growing up, but I find there to be a lot of confusion when it comes to requests.   It sounds like an easy thing, just ask for what it is you want.  Let the other person know what you need.  Perhaps because it is connected to our relationships with others, it can be a struggle.  One element of the process involves getting clarity on what it is that we need and want.  In my interactions with others I have found this to be the root of the difficulty around requests.  Some of us feel or have felt that we did not deserve to ask for what we wanted or needed.  Perhaps we were told no enough times that we figured there was no point in asking.  But that basis it upon the results of the requesting.   On my daily dates with God it is inherent upon me to know what is going on with me.  What do I need?  What do I want?  Where is it I want to go and what is required to get there?  All of these things require making requests.  They start with the requesting we do with ourselves.  In the grand scheme of things, it is less about the result of the requesting and more about the action of doing so.  We need to know for ourselves what we need, want, desire, and so on.  It may or may not be something we need others to approve of or provide but if it does and we lack clarity of where we are coming from, the requesting will not work.  I realize the power of my requesting resides in my awareness of myself.  If I know it is okay or safe to make a request then it will be heard.  If I understand that it is important to ask whether or not the request is meant, it goes much more smoothly.